widevisions.in

“A friend in need is a friend indeed”. The most required person is your best friend if you are in grief. It’s tough to make yourself ready to live without your loved ones. There are several situations where the most important person in our life leaves us. The important thing is that we feel alone. It tends us to severe grief. As the eldest daughter in my family, I have seen many sad situations so I know how to deal with them and how to help others. Helping a grieving friend depends on what happened to her. It could be someone’s death or a breakup or anything else. Here I am discussing general things that could be applied to every case.

1. How important they are.
   Believe me, it works like a miracle. My mother used to apply this technique to me whenever I feel worthless or negative in my life. She always came to me and hug me with love and said “how could I and your dad live without you. You are our doll and we can’t imagine life without you, cheer up baby “. These simple words mean a lot to me and just the next second I have been ready to prepare for another challenge.
2. Offer a good meal.
   It can be a good idea to offer your grieving friend a tasty meal which she likes. If we face any tough situation in life the first thing we forget about is the meal which makes us weaker day by day. Being a friend, it’s your responsibility to give your loved ones a good food. Good food will help to boost her mood and will allow her to forget about the grief for some time. Don’t forget to ask about dietary restrictions before offering meals.
3. Listen
   Be a good listener the most important thing you have to do is listen, listen just listen. Sharing grief minimizes it. Have patience and share her feelings.
4. Stay connected.
   Ask your loved ones about their wellness. It’s not a one day work to make a routine to make a call or stop at your loved one’s place to talk about her feelings and to tell her story.
5. Help with your profession.
   Everyone is expertise in some work like I am a software engineer. Similarly, many of you would be a doctor, lawyer, or banker. Help your dear ones in the area you are expertise in. You can help with paperwork related to life insurance or death certificates etc. If someone assists with the paperwork that he is familiar with the process can remove a great deal of stress from the bereaved.
6. Help as a messenger.
   This depends on the person and the situation. If your loved ones are agreed you can spread the news of death (in case of death) and other funeral related messages. Telling people about the loss of loved ones make them more tired.
7. Offer some funds.
   In hard times the most important thing we need is money. Don’t wait for your dear ones to ask for money. Maybe they are not prepared for it. Offer them some funds, according to your budget and their need.
8. Help with everyday tasks.
   You can help them with shopping or household works. You can take care of their kids or old aged people in the family. You can take their pet for a walk if the pet is comfortable.
9. Plan some activity.
   You can plan yoga, exercise, running, or anything with bereaved in which your dear ones are comfortable. It will encourage them to get out of the house.
10. Plan an adventurous trip.
    Help them to reconnect with life and friends. It could be a movie a visit to the zoo or any spiritual session. What do they love to do in their free time? Discuss with them and plan accordingly.
11. Share motivational text or video.
     If they love reading books give them some motivational books or share videos or audio of the same. Be positive and keep them sending such literature with love, have faith that they will recover from such a situation.

After all, it depends on you how you go through all these things. Helping a grieving friend will always make your relationships more close and lifelong. A single smile can change the day. So all the best for your effort.

As I always say please share your feedback.
11 Facts that make friends more special than girlfriend or boyfriend